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04/22/2009

Feeling Burned Out?

Filed under: Burnout,General — Tags: — Joyce K Reynolds @ 1:23 pm

burned-out.jpgSometimes it shows up as a feeling of being drained, hopeless and on the edge.

Maybe it’s a sense of failure or shame at no longer living life robustly.

More disturbing might be feelings of anger, callousness or deep cynicism about life.

Whatever the signs, burnout is a serious problem that needs to be addressed. And it’s not, typically, something that can be overcome alone.

Along with overwork, burnout often results from never having found genuine meaning or joy in one’s work.

Urgent to recovery is to admit the feelings. Refuse to ignore or deny them. Use that last ounce of reserve to seek qualified help or compassionate support that will assist in getting into a solution-oriented mode.

Along with understanding and emotional support, a qualified Coach, for example, can help a burnout victim put aside that terrible hopelessness or anxiety and create focus and – perhaps, for the very first time in their life – help a client identify a clear, life-giving sense of purpose.

As one colleague, Mark Gorkin,  so aptly put it:

“For the phoenix to rise from the ashes
One must know the pain
To transform the fire to burning desire.”

 

04/21/2009

Could this possibly have something to do with me?

Filed under: All About Me,General — Tags: — Joyce K Reynolds @ 11:13 am

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Ever wonder why the same disappointing or nasty things keep happening to you over and over again?

I know I do.

Sometimes it’s amazing that it takes me so long to understand that this has something to do with ME!

That some unconscious belief or unfortunate bit of mis-learning is continually creating circumstances that I don’t like or want. Over and over again.

So, what to do?

First, admit it. 

I create my own stuff.  I am, in fact, committed to this stuff whether or not I like it. And, I am the only one who can change this unhappy circumstance.

 I have to start by replacing those mostly unconscious loyalties to the way I do things or think things that produce unhappy sometimes really bad results with thoughts, practices and goals that support the purposeful, productive things I’d like to achieve.

So, if I want the life I say I want but don’t have – it’s that simple. It’s mine to fix. No excuses.

And if I don’t?  Well, as Ricky would certainly say, “I got some ‘splainin’ to do!”

04/19/2009

Natural Happiness.

Filed under: Happy — Joyce K Reynolds @ 4:23 pm

Why should we care about nature? Yale Psychology professor, Paul Bloom, answers for The New York Times:

http://www.nytimes.com/2009/04/19/magazine/19wwln-lede-t.html?_r=3

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Spring. How I Do Love Thee.

Filed under: Alone,Spring — Tags: — Joyce K Reynolds @ 1:10 pm

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All but the most hardened appreciate the countless wonders of Spring.

The lifting of winter’s heavy veil. The drip of snow melting. The birthing of buds and baby birds.  The lightness of just a sweater wrap.  Musicians on the street corners and people sunning in the parks.

The result?

“It’s spring fever.  That is what the name of it is.  And when you’ve got it, you want – oh, you don’t quite know what it is you do want, but it just fairly makes your heart ache, you want it so!”  ~ Mark Twain

04/16/2009

My Pink Cloud.

Filed under: Pink Cloud — Tags: — Joyce K Reynolds @ 11:50 am

pinkcloud31a.jpgEvery now and them I find myself there. 

Feeling totally at peace.

No explanation.

None needed.

If only I could stay there longer.

Or visit more often.

Hm.

So, what keeps me from doing so?

Being me,  I suspect.  Curious.  Impatient.  Eager for action.  Prone to worry. 

There are so many things that disrupt my peace. Things I could manage if I so chose. 

Often it takes the hand of Nature on a gentle day, a visit to my lap from my new little cat, Jaxx, or a message from a loving family member or friend to return me to a sense of well-being and serenity.

Ah, how I love it.

Ah, how I resist it.

Oddly human, isn’t it?

04/08/2009

Why Aren’t We Happy?

Filed under: Happiness,Happy,Unhappy,Unhappy — Tags: — Joyce K Reynolds @ 11:35 am

tears2a.jpgOver 4,000 books on the happiness subject have been published in the past ten years. It seems to be the most sought-after yet elusive thing people crave.

So what’s the problem?

It could be our too-high expectations.  It could be our outward-rather-than-inward focus.  It could just be our definition or (mis)understanding of happiness. 

Frankly, I think the real problem is our lack of self-affection. 

So, instead of thinking that we must improve our material, physical or relationship circumstances, we might just want to focus on all the things about ourselves that are good and comforting and fun and promising.  That puts us square in the essence.  On the journey.  In the moment.  And, it makes happiness just one changed thought away.

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